OK, loved the movie, but it isn’t realistic. Some would say, it isn’t meant to be realistic, but it isn’t even close, but it does give you some great laughs cause it comes so close to the truth you can see yourelf in it.

But we all know the reality of ever meeting a guy like Jake (John Cusak’s character) is rare at best. And I know because this online dating thing isn’t new for me, in fact I started meeting people/some guys online 9 years ago using a video camera. But there was no searching based on specific parameters, you just sat around in the vid/chat hoping for cute guys to pop into the chat room and some did. So it was a natural progression for me to move to the online dating services when I moved to a new area I thought this is the perfect way to meet local guys but definitely haven’t found any Jake’s and it’s been almost two years.

Having used the internet as a communication tool for the past 10 years it’s amazing to see how the online dating thing has taken off, becoming a bit of a phenomonen. It used to be taboo to say you met the man/woman online but now it’s a positive thing. Also, with all the movies and the new TV show “hooking-up” it’s becoming even more chic.

Note, the TV show isn’t too bad because it gives you a clear picture of what is really going on in other people’s minds when you meet. I hope the show continues because it’s taught me a few things about dating, which I don’t do very much.

My goal is to find one guy to connect with and spend time cultivating a relationship, but it’s VERY difficult to find that someone, especially since I work from home, from my living room to be exact. I’m so flexible though when the right guy comes along it should be easy to mesh our worlds, give me a laptop computer, a high speed internet connection and I have an office from anywhere in the world.

So back to the topic at hand, online dating, although it hasn’t been very successful for me so far I think it’s a “good thing” as Martha would say. But it is a difficult thing because you have to open yourself up to the possibility of getting hurt and I don’t like getting hurt. And after meeting four guys I thought I might have met someone who is possible boyfriend material. But on our second date, he told me his job was transferring him in seven weeks to a new assignment out of state. So this was very disappointing news because it was a mutual connection which is a rare thing and because he is leaving in seven weeks he doesn’t seem to want to invest much more time in getting to know me. (Note to self, this is a red flag because seven weeks is a long time if you want to get to know someone better.).

But as I told my friend today, after meeting the “potential” boyfriend for a second date, “I guess we’re just at different places in our lives and he seems to be where I was a year ago ….. wanting a relationship, but not interested in doing much to make it happen.”

So my online dating experience has sucked and I don’t know if I’ll continue but for now I’ve hidden my profile to take a break.